Don't be afraid of telling him, “Ehh that’s not doing anything for me,” but also “I really liked it when you were doing this before,” will help send a message, too. "Tell him how good it feels when he does something right, or remind him of a technique that always gets you off," suggests says Georgia sex therapist Gloria Brame, Ph. "If he's not giving you enough foreplay, ask him to use his hand or mouth to warm you up, saying that you want to draw out the experience."For men, what they see is almost as good as what they get, so make sure to give him an eyeful.
"One time during sex, my girlfriend led me over to a mirror so we could see ourselves in action," remembers Tyler, 21.
Trying something kinky doesn’t mean springing blindfolds on someone out of the blue without any warning!
"Women are often afraid to get naughty in a relationship, because they don't want to shatter any 'good girlfriend' image he has or they don't want him to think they're weird," explains Brame.
"But men want to see that no-holds-barred side of you — they just don't want to offend you by asking for it."It’s easy to fall into a rut, but there’s nothing like spontaneity to keep things fresh in a hookup.
If you open up the communication so he feels safe sharing his fantasy with you, it’ll only improve and help your relationship.
As with any sexual fantasy, it’s best to discuss details beforehand.
Here, 11 of the most common sex *~cravings~* every guy has, and a non-awk way of bringing them up: Imagine sex is like a group project and you are obviously very invested in getting an A (or having an orgasm.) Your group members might be all talk but when it’s 3 AM the night before something’s due and you’re not ANY closer to that A, you might need to take control if you really wanna see it through. Show him the moves you use to get yourself off when you’re alone and let him in on the fantasy.
He’ll love the idea of his own private peep show and he’ll be learning exactly what it is you need to get off.Open up the dialogue by discussing one of your fantasies first.This makes it more comfortable for him to talk about his own fantasies, and will establish a baseline trust and safe space.If you’re to believe everything you see in pop culture, you'd think men fantasize about sex 25/8 and are literally always down to do it.But in practice, having your partner open up about his fantasies is always a little bit harder than it would seem."I found it really sexy, but what made it hotter was how into it she was." Being open about what you like, even if you're worried about what someone might think, is the best way to connect with each other ~in bed~.